Why We Declined the Ice Bucket Challenge

My son was the first in our family to receive a nomination to take the ALS Ice Bucket Challenge. As a nine year old, he wasn’t aware of this phenomenon that has swept the country.

I had given the challenge some thought before my son was nominated – wondered how I would respond if I were nominated as I assumed I would be soon enough, as active as I am on social media. I didn’t expect that he would be nominated first.

Charitable giving is something we work hard to instill in our children. We talk about finances at our monthly family meeting and engage the kids in budget decisions. We encourage the kids to select causes that are dear to their hearts and expect them to give annually.

Last year, my son baked and sold cupcakes to raise awareness – and $63 in funds – for Nystagmus on Wobbly Wednesday. Soon thereafter, my daughter donated $50 of her own money to the Haiyan Hurricane Relief Fund.

The Ice Bucket Challenge

The Ice Bucket Challenge is an effort to raise funds for amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS), commonly referred to as Lou Gehrig’s disease. It’s an extremely devastating neuro-degenerative condition that affects nerve cells in the brain and spinal cord. According to the ALS Association, approximately 5,600 people in the U.S. are diagnosed each year, and the average life expectancy is about two to five years from that point.

Between July 29 and Aug. 21, the ALS Association had received $41.8 million in donations, compared to just $2.1 million during the same time period last year. This is a prime example of social-media outreach benefits, and I don’t think there’s a person in the world who could downplay that success.

The Ice Bucket Challenge process is simple. Once you are nominated, you have 24 hours to complete the same task. Dump a bucket of ice water over your head and then pass it along by naming others to do the same. If you don’t follow through within the timeframe, you are expected to donate $100 to the cause.

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Photo by Moko

Getting Nominated

When I explained to my son that he had been nominated, he was at first perplexed.  I then shared with him the video whereby his friend nominates him for the challenge and he became very upset.  “I don’t want to do this!” he exclaimed with fear in his voice.

First and foremost, I am certainly not going to coerce my child to follow through on some dare – even if it is for a good cause. I want him to have the courage to stand up for himself and say no.

As we talked about it, he and his sister expressed their feelings clearly. They both felt it was a tremendous waste of water, especially here in NorCal where we are experiencing a drought.

There are about 800 million people in the world who don’t have access to clean drinking water – my kids have seen this first hand while traveling in China. Dumping a clean bucket of water on our heads just seems crazy and insensitive.

We brainstormed alternatives – bringing a bucket to the lake during sailing class and dumping a bucket of lake water over our heads – but even then he was opposed. I didn’t push it. I want him to trust that his words and feelings will be validated.

Raise Awareness

I am deeply saddened, however. First, I am disappointed that it takes getting publicly called out for someone to donate to a specific cause.

When my son was attempting to sell cupcakes to raise money for Nystagmus, it was if we were asking people to pull their sweet tooth! The Ice Bucket Challenge is not just raising awareness, it’s bullying.

People should feel led to give because they want to do their part. They should feel like their efforts are making a difference and that their contribution is appreciated.

I am also now beginning to see spin-offs, local non-profits and youth sports teams, for example, attempting to capitalize on the success of this phenomena. This rubs me the wrong way.

Charitable Causes Dear to Us

During our discussions as a family, we expressed a hope that this challenge could serve as an opportunity to raise awareness about all charities with which the public may not be familiar.

We thereby selected a few causes dear to us that we would like to share with you, especially since their respective “awareness” times are approaching.

November 5th is Wobbly Wednesday – a day set aside to raise awareness for Nystagmus. Nystagmus is a condition of involuntary eye movement, acquired in infancy or later in life, that may result in reduced or limited vision. Due to the involuntary movement of the eye, it is often called “dancing eyes” or “wobbly head’.

My son was diagnosed when he was just a few months old. Both of my brothers were also diagnosed as children.  Though Nystagmus is not as debilitating a disease as ALS, it is is one by which we are personally affected.

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October is Dysautonomia Awareness Month. The most common form, Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome (POTS), is thought by the Mayo Clinic to affect 1 in 100 teens, and at least 500,000 -1 million people in the United States.

Dysautonomia commonly causes issues with heart rate and blood pressure, and changes when a person stands up. So, many people with various forms of dysautonomia faint, or feel like they are going to faint. They can also have a very fast heart rate that is frightening, extreme fatigue, problems with digestion, memory, and many other unconscious bodily functions.

The symptoms vary based on the disorder and every individual is different. This makes it hard for some doctors to recognize, and often patients are left thinking it’s anxiety, or all in their head. Women are affected more than men (an estimated 5:1 ratio), and many people are left completely disabled. Some of the more rare forms are fatal. To learn more about POTS, visit Dysautonomia International, Inc.

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Crohn’s and Colitis Awareness Week is December 1-7. Crohn’s disease and ulcerative colitis are both major categories of Inflammatory Bowel Diseases (IBD), affecting an estimated 1.4 million Americans. These chronic diseases tend to run in families and they affect males and females equally. While IBD can affect anyone, Caucasians are more likely than other ethnic groups to have IBD.

It is often difficult to diagnose which form of IBD a patient is suffering from because both Crohn’s Disease and ulcerative colitis cause similar symptoms. To learn more about IBD, visit the Crohn’s & Colitis Foundation of America website.

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May is Celiac Awareness month. Celiac disease is an autoimmune disorder that can occur in genetically predisposed people where the ingestion of gluten leads to damage in the small intestine.  It is estimated to affect 1 in 100 people worldwide.

Celiac disease can develop at any age after people start eating foods or medicines that contain gluten. Left untreated, celiac disease can lead to additional serious health problems. These include the development of other autoimmune disorders like Type I diabetes and multiple sclerosis.

Pay it Forward

After much deliberation, my son declined the nomination to take the ALS Ice Bucket Challenge and as a family, we vowed to stand by him. Instead, we used this as an opportunity to teach the kids about ALS, one of the most traumatic and heartbreaking diseases out there.  We will most definitely be making a monetary contribution.

The Ice Bucket Challenge was indeed a success.  It helped to not only raise funds but also raise awareness.  At least in this home.

Whatever cause is dear to your hearts, volunteer, donate when your situation permits, and do your part to raise awareness. If you choose to do that after dumping a bucket of icy water on your head, it’s your call. Just don’t stop once the water dries and the social media frenzy moves on to the next craze.

 

About Eva Varga

Eva is passionate about education. She has extensive experience in both formal and informal settings. She presently homeschools her two young children, teaches professional development courses through the Heritage Institute, and writes a middle level secular science curriculum called Science Logic. In addition to her work in education, she is an athlete, competing in Masters swimming events and marathons. In her spare time she enjoys reading, traveling, learning new languages, and above all spending time with her family. ♥

7 comments on “Why We Declined the Ice Bucket Challenge

  1. Great post Eva. I must personally thank you for mentioning the illness that has dominated our lives for 12 years, Dysautonomia in the form of POTS (Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome). It has been a big issue for POTSies that get nominated for the challenge as extreme temperature changes cause vascular issues and potential fainting.

  2. Great post Eva. I have been thinking about this issue much the same way you have, but I haven’t been able to put it all into words so clearly. I am glad a group like ALS is getting much needed attention. One of our life long friends lost her mother to ALS and the toll it took on their family during the 3+ years her mom had ALS was enormous, so we have seen the impact.
    My kids have seen many of the videos, but they didn’t understand the details of the challenge. They were finally nominated this weekend as well but as a family we have been discussing options. We always give to many organizations each year, my kids each have their own savings envelopes so they can put money aside and donate it to organizations they believe in. We also spend many volunteer hours supporting some special groups too.
    I’m not a big fan of people dumping water on themselves for attention (that is another story in itself for me because most don’t mention if they donate, the assumption would be that they then dumped the water instead of donating). However I am pleased that some people are donating to organizations who maybe would not have done it without a reminder.
    We will continue to volunteer with and send financial support to as many organizations as we can, but I think we will do it in our own way and in our own time.
    PS – I love the LEGO graphic!

  3. I feel the same way about quite a few “fads” that seem to die off after they’ve ceased to be “cool”………….. Like flying the American flag for about a year after 9/11, and then loosing the patriotism before they were done clearing the rubble. My wife and I have refused our nominations on these same grounds. Thanks for the great post!

  4. Eva, I really appreciated your thoughts on this. My daughter was nominated and accepted the challenge. Me — I was nominated and did not accept because I just have some problems with it because of the reasons you stated. My daughter decided to make a donation to a sweet little one we know who is undergoing treatments for Leukemia.

    I’m glad you wrote this post — I admire your courage.

  5. Wow, Eva, really appreciate your thoughtful “decline” re: the ice bucket challenge, as well as your “highlights” re: other needs, issues, awareness / concerns; thank you!

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